Loser's Guide To Get Women At Daytime [6 Steps]

The one who is reading this post spends most of his time in front of laptops, phones, working day and night to earn money. You don't get enough time or you are too busy to go out to meet women.

But, you want women.

You are done with masturbating and imagining hot women or paying for hookers. You actually want women now.

You are nerd, geeky and hyper alert or you have nothing to do and that can be your strength.

You want to know how?

Just stay with me.

6 Step Process To Get Women During Daytime:

So this process is divided into two parts-

1) Mindset:- 

(a) She is not attracted towards the things you do. She is attracted towards who you are.
(b) Interactions are like a movie. So relax, chill and enjoy.

2) Execution:-

(c) Domino effect: Just a hi can be converted into sex.
(d) She wants a man with the qualities of a lover.
(e) Be present to the moment.
(f) Absorb everything.

6 steps in action:

Suppose you are walking down the road from your work and you suddenly enter a street full of women. You studied about 6 steps by Yadhuvir last night and now is the time to implement it.

(a) She is not attracted towards the things you do. She is attracted towards who you are. 

Understand that she is not attracted towards the things you have and the activities you do. She is attracted towards who you are as a person. She is attracted towards the behavior and not the achievements. 

Always remember that a woman is never attracted towards a man instead she is attracted towards the emotions she feels in the presence of that man.

If she gets those emotions in more intensity from any other man, she won't hesitate to leave.

(b) Interactions are like a movie. So relax, chill and enjoy.

So you just came out of office/college/home and you are in your head.

It's okay and it's normal.

You were in a totally different environment where you had to use the left part of your brain more. You were in a more logical, analytical mood. Your body was not in a continuous, rhythmic motion so your body and mind both are frozen.

But now you are in a different environment and you got to adapt. Wake up the right hemisphere of your brain and become a social butterfly.

Start observing people and give them compliments.


(c) Domino effect: Just a hi can be converted into sex.

Start small. Go and talk to the beggar, security guard and salespeople. Ask them about their life story. This will put you in a social mood. Your mouth has started moving now. Talking to these people made your emotions flowing again.

And there you saw a girl coming. Go and say hi. Most guys don't even take the first step.
Just go and say hi while keeping the sub-communication on point.

To know more about sub-communication, read this article 4 Simple Ways To Attract Any Girl


(d) She wants a man with the qualities of a lover.

She don't want you to pay for her things or buy her chocolates or protect her from 'evil guys'.
Women these days can provide and protect themselves. They want a lover.

There are some behavior traits that separate lovers from providers. I recently wrote an article about the behavior of lovers. Check it out 3 Female Psychology Hacks That No One Knows


(e) Be present to the moment.

Not every woman is going to like you.

Not everyone in this world can like you so stop behaving in ways to make people like you. Stop being a people pleaser.

Some interactions are good for getting rejected, some are good for just socializing, some are good for making social circles and future connections and some interactions just clicks and boom!

You are in the flow.

So always stay with the present emotion. If I am feeling fear then it's just now that I am feeling it. I don't know what I am going to feel 10 minutes from now.

Stay in the process. Keep approaching and don't beat up yourself for bad reactions.

DO NOT JUDGE YOURSELF.


(f) Absorb everything.

Become a sponge and soak in the environment.

Step 2 says that interactions are like a movie so every interaction is an interesting movie. You come to know about people from different countries, cultures and race.

Whenever you miss an interaction, you miss a whole fucking movie.

So whatever reactions you get from an interaction, start soaking it in. Don't get happy when you get good reactions and don't get sad when you get bad reactions.

Just stay in the process, keep absorbing the stimulation and express your thoughts.

 If you want to see me approaching women and showing all of this live then you can see my infields and subscribe to my YouTube channel The Yadhuvir. You can even follow me on Instagram (yadhuvir_singh) to look into my daily life and hustle. Until next time. 

4 Simple Ways To Attract Any Girl

Most guys when go and approach the girl for the first time, they try to prolong the conversation and try to show her how nice they are.

Instead of looking at the quality of interaction they focus on the time spent in the interaction..

This is a wrong way to approach.

Time can be your ally when you are spending time with her inside a coffee shop or restaurant where you both can share your childhood stories, common interests etc.

Time can even help you when you are in the closing phase where you want to take her number or lead her to your home.

But when we approach a woman for the first time, we should never try to prolong the interaction.

Instead make it intense.

EXPERT ADVICE: 

(a) Attraction is not a choice. If she is not attracted towards you then there is nothing YOU can do to turn the tables around. If she is attracted towards you then there is nothing SHE can do about it. She will just keep on falling for you.

(b) Emotions are the most addictive chemical in the universe for women.

(c) Women can sense when you are not having good emotions in the moment and they will push those buttons again and again to make you react. When she presses your buttons but she don't get reactions the way most guys give, she comes to know that you are different than most of the men out there.  

4 Simple Ways To Attract Any Girl:

These 4 ways are what we call as sub-communications. If you handle these 4 sub-communications, 90% of the work is already done. 

1) Laser eye contact-

Your eye contact should be laser. 

As you are walking towards her from a distance, do not look down, right, left or up. 

Don't look at her stomach, legs or behind her.

Look into her eyes directly and start walking towards her.

She will come to know that you are going to approach her and you can see her adjusting her posture, hair and dress to look good.

2) Smile-

Casanova has said, "smile is the shortest distance between 2 people."

Our brain has mirror neurons which mirrors the gestures and body language of other person.

So if you are smiling and your eye contact is laser, it will setup the sexual base of the interaction.

Secondly, when you smile and talk to a random girl, you come off as a non-threatening person. 

3) Tonality and volume-

People are in their heads. 

They are busy with their own stories. 

When you open a girl with seeking rapport tonality and low volume, she would prefer to stay in her own story.

Loud volume and breaking rapport tonality snaps people out of their head and the bullshit story that is occupying their head space and shows masculinity.

4) Proximity-

This is where most men suck.

As soon as you approach a girl, you should be standing really close to her. 

If she hesitates then you can take a step back while still verbally engaging her logical mind.

She cannot feel your presence if you are not standing close to her. If she cannot feel your presence then she won't even get turned on.

When a man stands close to a woman, her body starts getting warm. Her body starts preparing itself for the process of mating. Her pupils will dilate, lips will swell up a little bit and you can see her eyes sparkling.

These 4 sub-communications sets up the Man to Woman frame and makes the interaction intense which further makes her attracted towards you and recently I wrote an amazing article that an give you crazy insights about female psychology. Check it out: 3 Female Psychology Hacks That No One Knows


If you want to see me approaching women and showing all of this live then you can see my infields and subscribe to my YouTube channel The Yadhuvir. You can even follow me on Instagram (yadhuvir_singh) to look into my daily life and hustle. Until next time.

3 Instant Ways To Make Her Chase You

Men have always been obsessed with making a girl to chase them. It is because the media always shows the man pursuing the woman. So men sometimes fantasize about hot women chasing them.

We all do it.

Most men think that once they have an amazing physique or a lot of money then she will be chasing them but it's not true.

How difficult you think it is for women to get a jacked up, model looking guy?
How difficult you think it is for women to get a rich guy?
How difficult you think it is for women to get a guy with a huge bungalow?

Women can get hot, rich and handsome guys within seconds so if you are one of those men who want to make girls chase with the help of your looks or money, sorry but you are already out of her league bro. 

So now you know that there is nothing external which you can say or do to make her chase you.

Women won't chase you based upon your words or actions. Her chasing you is totally based upon the thoughts and mindsets that are producing those words and actions.

Your mindset sets up the field for the chase.
   
If you really want to know how 'chase frame' works then you got to know about some mindsets to introduce higher value in front of woman which gives her the space to experience you, see you as a reward and then chase you.

She will only chase rewards and if  you have even 1% of self-doubt, she comes to know that you are not a reward.

EXPERT TIP: A man who sees himself as a reward; his thoughts, words and actions are always aligned. He says what he thinks and he do as he says.

As a reference, you can see me setting up the chase frame in this infield video of mine.

3 Mindsets To Make Her Chase You:

To be a reward for her so that she can chase you, you have to talk to her with these mindsets.

(i) The Giver:- 

  Whenever most guys talk to to women, they go with an agenda in mind and everything they say or do revolves around that agenda. Some guys want her number, some want her to go on a date and some want to fuck her then and there only.

Whenever you go with such agendas, you totally forget that you are a fucking leech.

Suppose you are walking down the road and a skinny man in white shirt, navy blue trousers with an encyclopedia in his hand and a black colored bag on his back approaches you.

Man: Sir, can I have your two minutes please?

Do you already somehow know his agenda?

Can you already see the leech inside him which actually don't give a shit if you need an encyclopedia or not but he just want to sell you anyways?

Like you understood that this guy was a salesman who just wants your money same way women can come to know about the intent of men.

Be a 100% giver. Don't give a damn about what others are thinking of you right now. Don't think if you say what's actually going on in your head then people might dislike you.

A giver just gives. He doesn't care about how people react to him.

If you had sex with Alia Bhatt last night and clicked pictures with her and next day you show those pictures to your friends, will you show those pictures to get appreciation or will you just show and don't give damn if they believe or not because you know that you fucked Alia Bhatt.

So when you approach a girl, be a giver. Don't seek reactions from her. Don't judge yourself on the basis of however she reacts. 

As a giver, your response is in your control, not her reactions.

(ii) The Authority:-

98% of men have given up their own authority.

Are you one of them?

Let's see. Answer these questions in your mind.

a) Do you change your decisions based upon your parents approval?

b) Are you afraid of your parents?

c) Does your behavior depends upon the situations?

d) Do you think that talking to random women on streets and malls in unethical?

e) Do you think however, whatever, wherever you are in your life, you are enough for her?

Now there are two perspectives to look at these questions. One perspective is of a lover and other is of a provider. Both lover and provider is inside a man but the dormant perspective tells about the worldview of a man.

Perspective #1 [PROVIDER]

a) Yes because my parents know what's right or wrong. Parents have seen more of this world than me so why to risk taking a decision on my own. My parent's decision is my decision.

b) Yes I am afraid because they are elder than me.

c) Yes my behavior changes according to the situations. I know how to survive. Be a chameleon.

d) I don't talk to women on streets and malls because I am high value man and I don't do such low value things.

e) No, I have to earn more, look a little bit better and get some more knowledge then I will be enough for women.

Perspective #2 [LOVER]

a) I don't change my decision based on anyone's approval. If my parents say that what I am doing is right or wrong, how do they know if it's right or wrong thing to do? I need to figure out myself if my decision is right or wrong. NO ONE PREDICTS MY REALITY.

b) My parents are not ghosts. Why would I be afraid of my parents? I love my parents. Love and fear cannot coexist.

c) No, situations change but I remain the same. When you change your behavior according to the situations, you live in survival mode and if you do it enough times, it becomes a habit and I don't want to live my life in survival mode.

d) There is only one thing which is unethical and that is not going for what you want.  

e) There is no reason why I am not enough.

Looking at perspective 1 and 2 you can clearly understand that a provider has given up authority while the lover owns his authority. Authority naturally makes you a leader. And when you are a leader, she just cannot stop chasing you because our brains are hard wired to follow the leaders.

If you want to know more about how to be a lover then check out this article that I posted recently 3 Female Psychology Hacks That No One Knows  

(iii) The Cause:-

In an interaction, either you are at the cause or effect.

When two people are interacting and one person starts laughing because other person just said something hilarious. The person who is laughing is at the effect.

When you are laughing and giggling and suddenly she says that she doesn't like you and you lose the laughter. She is at the cause and you are at the effect.  

Always remember this, One person is always reacting to other person in an interaction. The one who is reacting is at the effect and the one who is making them react is at the cause.

Understanding cause and effect dynamics is really important because it sets up the foundation of chase frame. 

For example:

A girl is standing outside a shopping mall and you cannot control yourself from going and talking to her.

CASE 1:-

You: Excuse me. Hi! Are you from around here?

Her: Yeah, what do you want?

You: Nothing. You are cute so wanted to talk to you.

Her: Not interested.

You: mmm... (Stuck in head)

(Gets awkward and he leaves)

CASE 2:-

You: Excuse me. Hi! Are you from around here?

Her: Yeah, what do you want?

You: Why do you think I want something? Hi! Yadhuvir here. Who are you?

Her: Not interested.

You: Do you believe in aliens?

Her What? (Starts giggling and smiling)

You: Nothing. What's your name?

Her: *Name censored* (Shakes hand)

(Interaction keeps going on)

In case 1, the guy went inside his head as soon as she showed no interest and totally forgot that he has to be a giver, keep his authority by not getting sad when he doesn't get what he wants and staying at the cause.

In case 2, the guy is unaffected by her reactions, he is an absolute giver and he is at the cause which makes her react and further in the interaction she will start chasing him.

 If you want to see me approaching women and showing all of this live then you can see my infields and subscribe to my YouTube channel The Yadhuvir. You can even follow me on Instagram (yadhuvir_singh) to look into my daily life and hustle. Until next time.

3 Female Psychology Hacks That No One Knows

Women are amazing and as men, we always want to know more about them.

Maybe you suck a lot with women.
Maybe you are still a virgin.
Maybe you have a lot of women in your life.

But you reading this article makes it sure that somehow or somewhere, you are in scarcity of women.

Today I am going to share with you 3 amazing female psychology hacks that is going to get you berserk.

I will  tell you about:

1) Behavior traits that turns women off.
2) Signals that women give when they are attracted.
3) Behavior traits that turn women really on.

These three hacks are from my upcoming book about how to get successful with women just by being yourself. It will be released very soon.
So without any further ado, lets dive into the world of female psychology.


EXPERT ADVICE: You always attract what you are. If you don't have women in your life that means your life is not fun actually. If you cannot have fun in your own life, no one would love to hang out with you.

3 Female Psychology Hacks:

(a) Behavior traits that turns women off:- 

Neediness is the greatest turn off for women. Neediness stems from the lack of attention in a man's life. When there is no one to validate a man, he seeks approval and when he does that, it turns them off because seeking approval makes him look desperate.

Shyness is a major turn off for women and some times it backfires too. Many times men are too shy to show their boundaries to women. When women don't know what is unacceptable to you, they can keep on doing the most disastrous things and you will still take all of it because if you show your boundaries then you may lose her and you don't want to feel lonely again.

Confused men are women repellents. The man who is not on his path and purpose, who gets confused when she asks which color will look good on me turns them off. Confusion shows that a man has a lack of clarity in his thoughts and lack of clarity means a messed up life. You should know your likes and dislikes so that you don't have to think when options are there.

Reactive man is a pussy. If you are reactive then she is going to play with you like my cat plays with a pigeon. She killed one yesterday. Women will come to know about your buttons and they will push those buttons again and again until you become like a bitch in front of them. For example: if you are getting bald and she says that your bald head looks ugly and then you start reacting/justifying, you're done my friend. 

Boring men are like stones. What do you do with a stone? You throw them away. If you have got nothing interesting going on in your life then you are already fucked. How can a woman enjoy talking to a guy who doesn't even enjoys living his own life?

(b) Signals that women give when they are attracted:-

There are sub-conscious signals that the bodies of women naturally and biologically produces when they are attracted/interested in a guy. Her mind may lie but her body cannot.

- She plays with her hair because she is actually having fun talking to you.

- Her pupils get dilated because she is feeling so amazing that her eyes wants to intake more and more information about you. It's same like when there is bright light, pupils shrink and when there is low light, pupils dilate to intake more information so that you can see clearly.

- She starts scratching her body parts and these signals comes from our ancestors. Female Bonobos tend to scratch their neck, elbow and wrist more when they are in the presence of male Bonobos.

- She throws her hair left or right and this is an expression where she is showing a very vulnerable, delicate and sensitive part of her body and that is the side of her neck.

- She is comfortable with you getting close to her because whenever you get close to her,she will start feeling rise in her body temperature. It actually happens because her body is getting itself ready for the process of mating. 

(c) Behavior traits that turns women really on:-

There is a lover and provider inside every man. A woman is instantly attracted towards a lover because the behavior of lover is different than the behavior of a provider.

Lovers are the men who resemble with the leader of the tribe.

Providers are the men who protect and feed the family. Like the ones they show in movies.

As I have already mentioned that a lover resembles with the leader of the tribe which means a lover’s behavior is:

     

           Dominant because he has to lead the tribe.

           Decisive because he needs to make decisions fast so no decision is big or small for him. He knows the power of decision. He knows that if he can decide, he can achieve almost anything.

           Resourceful because he has access to a lot of resources so he’s not desperate to have more.

           Grounded because he knows what he truly is so other people’s opinion doesn’t affect him.

           Nonreactive because he knows that there is no point in arguments and justifications as it leads to more conflict.

           Fun because he wants to be happy and spread happiness among people so he thinks, says and does things in a way that makes him happy. If he’s happy then everyone is happy. Everyone feels light and relaxed around a happy person.

           Self-reliant because he knows that whatever, whoever or however he is; he is enough.

      Vulnerable because he is not afraid to risk anything to go for what he wants.

   

       A woman can easily separate lovers and providers looking at these behavioral traits.


      If you want to see me approaching women and showing all of this live then you can see my infields and subscribe to my YouTube channel The Yadhuvir. You can even follow me on Instagram (yadhuvir_singh) to look into my daily life and hustle. Until next time.

5 Steps To Get Her From Club To Bed

You are standing outside the club and you can listen to the loud music stimulating the shit out of everyone inside.

Wherever you see you can easily spot handsome men and beautiful women. Women are looking really appealing. Your heart is coming out of your chest because this loud music is making you feel anxious.

You just stepped inside the club and women started looking at you. Near the corner table you can see a couple making out. Women are dancing like crazy on the dance floor.

Looking at these women, you want to have sex now. But how?

Understanding the club environment:

Clubs are loud and chaotic. People come to clubs to have some fun, chill a bit out of their daily fucked up and robotic lives. 

Understanding the nature of environment is really crucial. People are not coming to clubs to engage in long ass conversations. They want to party, drink and dance. People pay for tables to get privacy.

So if you think that you can talk a girl to your bed then I have a bad news for you. Since it's a loud environment, you cannot engage women in long conversations. Attention span of women is really less inside the clubs. 

Forget that you can use some lines and get inside her pants. Women are not idiots and club is not tinder. 

What to do then? How to get a woman from a club to your bed?

5 Steps of Victory:

Women can easily weed out these guys:

(a) The one who fakes it till he makes it. 

(b) The one who is showing off.

(c) The one who is self-conscious and becomes a victim of the environment.

 If you want to get her, you need to follow these steps-

1) Accept everything the way it is:-

Become a sponge as soon as you enter the club. Absorb the environment. Become the environment.

Most guys resist the club environment and it is because few hours ago they were in some different environment for example: book store or restaurant or shopping store etc. But now they are inside the club and environment is changed.

So the first thing to remember is that one should not resist the change. Stay with the change instead.

Accept that it's fucking loud. Accept that you are afraid but don't know why. Accept that you are getting self-conscious. Get your short breaths back in sync again. Start taking deep breaths and let go of self-image.

Stop thinking that everyone is just looking at you. People are busy getting laid there. Get off the spectator mode because it's time for some action.

2) Start small:-

Go and talk to the guy standing alone.

You: How's the night going?

Him: It's fine.

You:  Awesome. See you later.

(Smile and leave)

Go and talk to the couple who is giggling there.

You: Sorry to interrupt you but you guys look so awesome together.
Guy: Thanks a lot bro.
You: You guys from around here.
Her: Yeah our office is nearby only.
You: Awesome. Have a lovely night guys.

(Smile and leave)

Go and talk to that woman who just came near the bar to get some water.

You: How tall are you?
Her: 5.10
You: That's crazy. Hi! What's your name?
Her: .....
You: ....

(Stay for sometime and then leave)

The main point is that you won't be in a highly social mood as soon as you enter the club. You will have to put yourself in social mood by allowing yourself to get in the situations where you have to engage with people.

3) Encourage yourself to come out of head:-

Either you are in the club or you are in the head. You cannot coexist inside and outside.

Most guys look for motivation to take action. They want someone to push them to open that first set.

Your action becomes your motivation.

Motivation doesn't create action. Action creates motivation. You will have to go and say hi to her. Until you take action, nothing is going to happen.

Some guys feel that they don't know what to talk to women. Most guys feel like they are out of words.

You can talk about whatever is going on in your head. You can even talk about your fear that you are feeling at the moment. When it comes to women, you can literally talk about anything because women actually don't listen to what you are saying, they are looking at how you are opening up when you start talking about things that you are actually thinking at that moment.

4) Capitalize and don't judge yourself:-

Don't just go and ask her to introduce herself and then come back. Start increasing the time you are spending in the sets as the night goes on. 

Introduce one woman to another woman, make connections, dance with them, take them out to some quieter place, go to the smoking zone. Don't just stop. You have just hit the flow.

Not every woman can like you so stop kicking your own ass whenever a woman rejects you. It's okay to get rejected.Rejection is the part of process. No one is looking at you getting rejected. Keep talking to people without carrying a self-judgement within you.

5) Lead and pull:-

When it comes to sex, women don't know how to lead.

Be a man, be a leader. If your interaction is really going amazing with a girl then lead her out of the club when the party ends. Go to any nearby restaurant to get food. 

She will check you for the last time if you are faking your personality or not. The best way to deal with last moment tests are by being brutally bold and honest.

She cannot catch you faking when you're honest.

For example: 

You: There is a really good Mexican restaurant. Let's go.

Her: But why should I come with you.

You: Because I would love to know you more. Let's go now. [LEAD]

Her: mmm..okay.

If its too late and no restaurants are open or if she cannot stop sexualizing with you then you can directly take her to your home.

It wont be easy to implement these steps all of the sudden. Keep going out everyday and follow these steps. You will eventually get there.

If you want to see me approaching women and showing all of this live then you can see my infields and subscribe to my YouTube channel The Yadhuvir. You can even follow me on Instagram (yadhuvir_singh) to look into my daily life and hustle. Until next time.

How To Be Competitive And Cooperative As Well [EXCLUSIVE]

This existence is due to competition. Clash of Gamma Rays created this universe, our Solar System thrived to be a part of this galaxy, Earth thrived to be a part of this Solar System, cells thrived to survive on Earth. Talking about humans, we are the most competitive sperm ever released.

But, what we are forgetting is that competition created this universe but cooperation is what handling the whole universe otherwise we could've eaten each other years ago.

In this corporate era, we should know how to use competition and cooperation as an ally.

The best guidelines to use both of them with full potential are:

1) Cooperation:Competition ratio should be 70:30 respectively.

2) If you have got a business idea, share it around.

3) If you have got any successful strategy, start using it on others.

WRONG MINDSET:

Once upon a time there was a Cat known for its great skills. A Tiger was its disciple. Cat taught the Tiger how to kill, how to swim, how to camouflage etc. After years of training, Tiger learnt everything he thought he need to learn and then, Tiger attacked its master that is Cat.

As soon as tiger came close to the Cat, the Cat climbed upon the tree and Tiger roared, "why didn't you taught me that?" The Cat said, "I always knew you were my competition and that's the only reason why I cooperated so that I could know what are your limitations."

What we can learn from this story is that if you will cooperate for example by sharing your ideas then the other person will view your idea according to his own experience and if you think that he will use the idea against you then guess what; an idea takes birth from your experience and no one can steal your experience from you. 

The Perfect Interview

So the interviewer asks," Can you handle more than one project at a time?"

The interviewee said,"Sir, I am like a computer. I can learn a task and perform it efficiently. I can perform better when I have the best guys around me like hardware and software. I can do multitasking but I may hang whenever you will ask me to copy and paste more than one item at a time because what happens when you copy-paste more than one item is:
* The load on the processor increases;
* As the load increases, the computer dissipates more heat;
* And finally, it affects the productivity and execution of the device.

But, when you  copy-paste one item at a time, it's like a thunder bolt. The productivity and execution increases exponentially and ultimately it makes you feel happy and satisfied. 
Am I saying that I can't do multitasking?
No, I can but ultimately it will affect my focus.
Focusing on 'n' items at same time means giving each item 1/n of your focus and I know that each item is not going to be as important when compared to each other?"



The interviewer asks,"Why should we hire you then?"

The interviewee said," Sir, many companies just need the grease of our joints and that's why they hire and the company expects people to work like robots and what do they do with the robots?
They train them, they rub their joints till the point they get old and after that companies start searching for a new model, new grease, new joints, new robots.

It's a never ending process and I don't want to be the part of this process. But, If you want your company's profit to increase exponentially, then you will need a man like me."

At last the interviewer said,"........." (What do you think?)   

This Is How The World Is Deceiving You [EXCLUSIVE]

You go to a restaurant with your family and you had a really great time. You know that your father is going to give a 5$ tip to the waiter but wait, your father just gave a 20$ tip. Nothing was special there, but just that the waiter gave a mint to the smallest kid in your family.

How could this happen? 
15$ extra as a tip from one family and no one knows how many people visit that restaurant regularly.

This is something we call The Law of Reciprocation. When someone do a favour or gives a gift, people feel a sense of obligation to return that favour and when they return any favour, they obviously return more than they got at the first place. Marketers know this and every reputed company around this world knows this.

But this is a part of our lifestyle from a very long time. Now you know the reason why a guy asks a girl if he can offer her a drink, now you know why Starbucks specially write your name on the cup to make you feel special (so that you can visit the place again), now you know why you are treated like a god whenever you enter a showroom and now you know what to do whenever you want something from someone.

What is meditation?

First of all, drop the idea that sitting down with legs crossed, closed eyes, and reciting OM is meditation. No, it is not. Secondly,  meditation is not related to any religion.

The real meaning of  meditation is to be just aware of whatever is happening outside you and inside you. Something bad happens and you are sad, something good happens and you feel amazing and the cycle goes on.

Meditation means to be just aware of what has happened, how your body is acting at the moment, what thoughts are coming in your mind and what are the emotions those thoughts are creating.

* Next time you are feeling good or sad:

1) See what has just happened. Just see and don't judge. Don't create the story but still your mind won't stop so;

2) See how your body is getting stifled and stiff. Maybe you will drop your shoulders or you will start making some unwanted gestures with your hands. Shift your focus on your body and make it relax and sit straightly;

3) See how your brain is producing multiple thoughts. Don't try to know why your brain is producing such thoughts but just see what is it doing;

4) See the emotions these thoughts are creating. You just have to see the effect those emotions are having on you.

After you followed this process, the pain will just disappear and your will be having immense peace.      

Here are your missing abs feat. Adam McDonald

Abs are made in kitchen. Okay, what else? Don't know?

If you are one of the those guys who take their health very seriously then this article is going to be beneficial for you.

I interviewed Adam McDonald who is a professional  body-builder and he has a special system to make you look attractive and that too with the help of a normal diet and simple workouts.

I asked Adam,"People know what is bad for them and they still eat it. What is the psychology behind it?"

Adam said,"We often don't act in line with what we know we should or ought to do, it’s irrational but that’s a common trait of human beings. Just because we know we should do something doesn't necessarily mean we will.

There are 3 levels of awareness

- Intellectual understanding 

- Emotional understanding

- Identity shift

Intellectual understanding doesn't change anything, we know we shouldn't smoke, we know we should study for the exam but we still act against what we know we should do. Emotional understanding is the next level where you don’t necessarily have any more information but you view it on an emotional level. You know overeating is bad for you (intellectual level) but you continue to do it; however, if the doctor told you that if you continue to eat this way you will die from a heart attack within the next 12 months you’re likely to change your habits based on the emotions this evokes.

The third and strongest level is identity shift.

“Identity is the strongest force in human personality. We all have a deep and abiding need to remain consistent with how we define ourselves. Any transformation you make within yourself will depend on your ability to expand this identity.” Tony Robbins

I see myself as someone who works out, eats well and wants to stay in great shape both mentally and physically. If I don’t remain consistent with this identity I get anxious, don’t feel right and feel “off”. This is the what I try to incorporate with my clients, rather than having them make goals for the sake of being “ripped” or 

“jacked” I get them to look at the intrinsic reasons which will help them remain consistent and on track. If your goal is only superficial you will find it a lot harder to reach and only disappointed or unfulfilled when you get there.

See yourself as a health conscious person rather than a just someone who is “trying to eat healthy” or “trying to go to the gym”. Your actions are always going to be in line with your identity, so make sure you have the right one."

I asked Adam,"People sometimes cheat meals and it's not a problem but it becomes a problem when they find themselves cheating everyday. Why do people focus on the taste and not on the results?"

Adam said,"I don’t personally like to have cheat meals as it leads to binges which in itself is an eating disorder, large binges can also undo a lot of hard work and results that you have done of the previous week. Instead, what I like to do is to try and fit foods that I enjoy into my daily macro nutrient guidelines. This prevents me from having any major cravings and wanting to sit and gorge in one sitting. When people limit themselves to certain foods that they don’t particularly like it makes them feel restricted and want to binge or “cheat”, following a flexible dieting approach allows me to still have the foods I enjoy (within reason) 

without feeling restricted.

If I was to just to eat the same bland foods everyday I too would have a difficult time following the plan. The problem is when people are so strict on themselves and have a small slip up they tend to feel as though the whole day of diet is ruined and then eat as much junk as they want because “..they've already ruined the 

diet today”. Focusing on the bigger picture of calories and macro nutrients rather than eating tasteless “healthy” foods will allow people to both enjoy their food and get results."

I asked Adam,"How should a healthy diet look like? (Talking about proteins, carbs, fats etc.)"

Adam said,"There is no official definition by any health Organizations of what a “healthy” food is but if I was to give some guidelines I would say.

- Do not eat an excess of calories unless your goal is to gain weight, a lot health problems stem from being overweight and eating an excess of calories.

- Eat at least 2-3 servings of fruit and 2-3 servings of vegetables a day

- Don’t avoid any particular food (perhaps be wary of trans fats). Foods don’t have morals, there are no bad foods only bad portions.

- Focus on Overall calories and macro nutrients then focus on food quality (micro nutrient dense foods). The proof is in the name “Macro” and “Micro”!

- 80% of the time try to eat whole, unprocessed foods and 20% of the time enjoy the foods you would consider “unhealthy” but remember calories are king and you want to keep your diet goals in mind.

- I try not to advocate exact meal plans as people feel like they are restricted and it can lead to binging on restricted foods.

If someone is over-consuming on a daily basis, the following questions should be addressed

-Is the diet too restrictive in terms of food choice?

-Is the diet too fast, too harsh i.e. are you cutting too much calories?

-What are the real reasons you are making these changes, do they have a higher purpose or is it for some superficial reason? You’re more likely to stick to a plan that is preventing you from getting type II diabetes versus one that’s going to give you abs for the beach."

ENDING NOTE:

Adam motivates us by saying,"In terms of diet and training adherence is always going to triumph. Don’t try go from zero to hero at the speed of light. Make some small changes that you are going to be able to stick to. When I am giving clients workout programs and diet nutrition guidelines I make sure that I don’t make too big of a jump from what they currently are doing, this is why so many people cannot stick to a diet or workout regime. If you don’t work out at all go to the gym maybe 2 or 3 times a week, don’t try and do 6. The same goes for diet, if you don’t have a clue about nutrition don’t try and follow some restrictive fad diet, try something small like taking a picture of each meal you eat and reviewing them all at the end of the week to see what your diet is comprised off and go from there."

5 Things I Have Learnt From Successful and Rich People.

I have been observing really successful and rich people and their behaviours all around the world and some things that I have learnt are:

(a) PROBLEM: Don't do anything to just get some good reactions from anyone (Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Friends etc.)

(b) TECHNIQUE: Anything you are doing, just do it to offer fun and positive emotions.

(c) TRUTH: Even your best friends will never want you to get aligned with your best version but you will always have a choice. Either go for what you want or don't go for your dreams and listen to what every one thinks.

(d) BELIEF: I am the master of my destiny. I can do whatever I want. I don't want anyone to show me up or show me down because I know myself better than anyone else and that simply means I Am Enough for everything this world and the people in it have to offer. 

(e) PRINCIPLE: Sometimes I might be feeling bad but in those times, I don't need anyone because I know myself better than anyone in this world and only and only I can change whatever I am feeling.



SAY THIS TO YOURSELF EVERY TIME YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING:

I am the source of all my emotions. Nothing and no one can change how I feel except me. If I find myself in reaction to anything, I can change it in a moment. 

How to not give a damn about anything

I get this question a lot that people feel offended whenever someone says negative stuff about them. They don't know what to do, how to react so, they go on performing the default behaviour programmed into them and that is, defending themselves.

Suppose you are coming back to home from your work and a beggar approaches you and asks for money. You tell him that you don't have the change and in return, he abuses you.
How those words from that beggar are going to affect you?
He don't know you so his abusive words won't even matter. Why would those words even affect you?

If you are at work and someone is showing you down, teasing and taunting you. Now, you might think that this scenario is a bit different but it's not. Everyone is hungry for attention and sometimes they need it at any cost. Even if they have to show people down, they will do that. Beggars of attention are everywhere.  

If someone says bad to you then that's their problem and not yours. They did their work by saying bad but now your work is, if you want to take it on heart or not. Most people start defending themselves and it puts them on the survival mode so that they can just survive this situation at any cost.

This all is because of the ego. People attach their ego with others, and when others say bad stuff about those people, they go through a great ego clash.

The three best ways to tackle such situations are:

1) Embrace that they are trying to make fun of you, exaggerate the situation and laugh on it.

2) Identify this feeling inside you and see how much discomfort it is causing. See how much pressure it is exerting on you. Accept the feeling and surrender to it. Accepting something does not mean liking it. Accepting something means that you are aware of that thing.

3) Don't reply and change the topic.

* ENDING NOTE:

Realize that the more you are going to defend yourself, the more you are going to fuel your's and others ego. So, be at peace.

Becoming the natural with RSD Max

The day when a boy becomes a man, he is bombarded with a hell lot of responsibilities and under those responsibilities he somehow forgets his true nature. The default nature of a man; the masculine. A man has both feminine and masculine energies in himself but most men fail to acknowledge the feminine part.

A man who knows how to balance both the energies, the yin and the yang, the Adam and the Eve; only he will taste the real success.

I interviewed Maximilian Berger a.k.a RSD Max who is a good friend and one of the most famous dating instructors in the world. He is a man who has seen a lot of difficult times in his life. He drop out the college for his passion, for what he wanted to do, he was hired as an intern without any salary in a foreign country and he worked very hard, and instead of condemning the kind of life he was living, he loved what he was going through because he was on his path and purpose.

Guess what? Now, he is one of the coolest and gangster mentors this world will ever have. He is an executive instructor of a world class dating company Real Social Dynamics and going to launch his product Becoming the natural on July 1st.

I asked him, "What is your story behind this awesome success you are getting today by teaching pick up all around the world?"

Max said, "Yeah I get that question a lot and my story isn't even that special or anything [He smiled]. Grew up in a small town in Austria, never had any success with women, never really had the courage to walk up to a pretty girl, let alone have a conversation with her. I was socially awkward (people avoided me, "friends" never wanted to hang out with me). I wasn't unhappy or anything, I had my computer games, my passion as a musician, getting wasted on the weekends, tons of internet porn [laughing]. At some point I realized though that that can't be it. I wanted to change, I wanted to be cool, wanted to be liked, wanted to have girls, have a great sex life, or a sex life at all. I just wanted to be a winner type. I was fed up with sucking, was tired of being a loser. I wanted more of life than just video games and alcohol. 
From that point on it was simple: Go out, read, work out, talk to people, work on myself, every day. And that's what I did, and that's what I still do, what I'll always do. As of right now I'm just happy I can inspire people (girls and boys alike) to do the same and become something bigger than themselves!"

I asked him, "There is a lot of difference in becoming a pick up artist and an instructor. What motivated you to teach pick up as an executive coach for the world class dating company Real Social Dynamics?"

Max said,"Well, there's nothing more inspiring than the stories and successes people tell me about on a daily basis. Whenever people finally step out of there comfort zone, start working on themselves or even reach goals that they never thought were possible, that just makes me happy. Being a part of it, being only remotely responsible for that inspires me back, day by day, story after story."

I asked him," The whole world knows the level of your skills and who can forget the value you have provided by showing us number of infield footage in which you are dating extremely hot women.
A guy from a small town in Vienna, Austria who has trained thousands and thousands of guys and is one of the best instructor in this field. What do you think your students have in common that drives them to go for what they want; the thing that separate your students from rest of the world?"

Max said,"Well first of all, Vienna is not the small town I came from. I moved to Vienna (biggest city in Austria) and learned "game" there [He smirked]
I think students around the world are very alike in their ultimate goals. We all want to reach happiness, we all want to show ourselves what we're capable of, we all want to strive and experience life outside our comfort zones. Too many times though that very wish is covered in bullshit and socially conditioned "cravings" after money, sex, and power. Whereas in reality we all just want to see ourselves grow."



I asked him,"We know that through your product "Becoming the natural" in which you have offered an immense value, every guy in this world can date any woman they want. What would you like to say about your product and the value you are offering in it?"

Max said,"The Natural is going to be great, and I'm beyond excited to release it July 1st - I'm already counting the days! [He Smiled]. It will pretty much contain everything I Know about game, how to become an attractive man, social dynamics, your own personal journey and much much more. All that backed up with HOURS of infield footage (+ breakdown) so you can basically just go out and do all this epic shit yourself [He Smirked]."

ENDING WORDS:

Not only me but every guy who wants to improve his dating life and wants to experience his/her life to the fullest; is going to sign up for Becoming the natural.

At last Max said,"Look I'm just a regular dude who's been doing this for a very long time. I've been putting in the energy, I've been going through pain, through adversity, I've seen it all, I've been through it all. If anybody would have told me what kind of life I would lead when I was this age I would have never believed it. Yet here I am and damn, I still can't believe it. You can do it. No really, YOU CAN DO IT. The sky's the limit, my friend, hell, not even that [He smirked]