The Modern World Dating Skills Feat. Sam Anthony a.k.a. RSD Sam

Ben: I like  you.

Tracy: Okay.

Ben: Here are some chocolates for you.

Tracy: So sweet of you, thank you.

Ben: Do you like me?

Tracy: I don't know.

Ben: I going to Vegas tomorrow in my Rolls Royce. My dad has a hotel there. Will you come with me?

Tracy: Maybe, okay give me your number. I will tell you.

Ben: Yeah, awesome, great! Here is my number **********. I will be waiting for your message.

And Ben is still waiting for her message.

This is modern era, the 21st century and if you are still listening to your grandfathers on hot to get the girl of your dreams then be ready to listen a hell lot of "no's". 

This article is about the difference between Traditional dating styles versus Modern dating styles and who will know better than the world class dating company, Real Social Dynamics.

I interviewed Sam Anthony a.k.a RSD Sam who is one of the best instructors of Real Social Dynamics and offers an immense value on his YouTube channel.

I asked Sam, "Why do men need to learn modern world dating skills rather than using old and traditional dating techniques like impressing the girl, giving her roses?"

Sam said, "The world is an ever changing environment. That being the case over the years we have adapted and developed the way in which we do everything. Making cars, going to the gym, even the way we cook food. 

So, it justifies before roses and chivalry worked tremendously well but we did have wars so, in some cases there was a lack of men in some areas of the world and when any man would go out of his way to impress a girl, usually she would try to lock him down as there was scarcity of men those days.

In today's scenario, we have technology that in the past they obviously didn't have thus creating new and exciting pathways for people to meet. So, people are meeting on social avenues like never before.

Using techniques for lets say the olden days won't have the same effect because of how much noise and traffic there is in today's society (not literally noise but so much information gets bombarded to humans on a daily basis) that roses on a door doesn't really mean the same in today's society than back in the 1950's."

I asked, "What do you think is responsible that most of men are like a lion in front of their friends and a cat in front of a girl?"

Sam said, "Interesting question- for me I will reword it to say, "Why most men have different personalities; one a strong, confident personality when interacting with friends and two a shy, introverted personality when interacting with women?"

There are multiple reasons for this and the list can go on for hours but the direct answer would be that when you are talking with a buddy say you have known for years or not doesn't matter.

Usually you talk and you really don't have an outcome to the conversation, unless it is a serious talk like something happened between friends or someone when over a boundary and the other guy would like him to apologize but usually the conversation is very casual, relaxed and stress free because you are chatting with your buddy why would you want it to be riddled with stress and worry.

On the other, that same guy can talk to a woman and be a completely different person. The first thing that has changed is that they want some sort of outcome, the usual one is that they like the girl and would like to become the boyfriend or maybe want to indulge in intercourse with the woman.

So, with that outcome in the mind they tighten up, it's like their mind shuts off and one of the biggest indications of this is that the guy won't know what to say, he will lose his train of thought (a lot).

Men do this as a defence mechanism to try not say the stupid thing but in the long run they hamper any chances they had because usually they don't talk or beta themselves out.

So the idea is to talk to the woman with not this big outcome in mind, don't rush ahead because the act of wanting something out of the girl or the conversation will inhibit any chances you have."

* Psychologists say that most of the men when watch romantic movies, they see that the hero said this to the woman and she got impressed but when they try this in real, nothing happens, and then they get confused about what to say.

I asked Sam,"As everyone knows that Real Social Dynamics is a world class dating company and you have also assisted RSD Tyler and RSD Julien  and now you yourself coach a lot of men getting successful with women.

What are some key things every man need to know if they want to get any woman they want?"

Sam said,"They should understand that they can't get every woman they want. Probably weren't expecting that answer, were you? hahaha. 

Look, we teach men how to get better results than they are previously getting without our help. Sometimes the men are good, sometimes they are bad but when people say OK make me get that girl.

It's almost this fantasy that they think we are like 'Hitch' the movie with Will Smith where he help these guys to get the girl of their dreams. It doesn't work like that, it's a movie. The reason they created the movie is so that people could have that hope that one day they could get that girl of their dreams and all would be right in the world.

In RSD, we do a lot of change in the work with men. We do this because a large majority of men are stuck in this head space where society has beat them down so much that they think what society tells them is 100% of the truth and there is no different.

We snap guys out of that reality to show them the over arching principles that they haven't seen before.

For example that one guy might say I just want that girl, my whole life would be complete if I only had that one girl. We say OK, that is fine to want that one girl but you trying to get her won't work. Let's get you good with woman in general so that you can pick from a place where you know that if it doesn't work out, you have the ability to find the another girl and it might work out better and too she might even be hotter than the original one you first wanted." 

I asked Sam,"As you have dated a tonne of hot models and you are a man that every woman wants. What do you think a woman looks for in a man?"  

Sam said, "Women respond to behaviour, the more women I date the more and more this is embedded into my subconscious. Sure that doesn't mean that women don't like when a man smells nice or looks good in clothes or a nice physical body but they respond best with how you behave.

Women can smell out when a guy is pretending to be someone he is not; quicker than Donald Trump can make the headlines again. Your personality is your greatest asset you have, by putting it out there you are projecting yourself onto people. Some may like it, some may hate it but by projecting yourself and expressing yourself, majority of people will like it but not doing it at all is like shooting yourself in the foot with your own gun." 

* As a man, there is nothing in this world you need to make you feel better.

* ENDING WORDS:

As an RSD instructor, Sam Anthony a.k.a RSD Sam motivates us by saying,"I mean look RSD videos on YouTube, we won't steer you wrong and go out there meet and attract woman all over the world. 

I have had experiences in my life that I never would have dreamed of. Sure I had some setbacks but majority of them changed my life for the better and even when I think they were bad, I learnt something and that's the most important lesson I can leave anyone is that the more you do, the more you will learn and learning is an amazing thing because it can never stop. 

When you think you know everything, something will pop up and surprise you."

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